I dont get it... I just dont get it!!

What is the right way of living. I see 2 categories of people. One who are into meetings friends and people in the society they are staying on a very regular basis, ever ready to help anybody in times of need and sometimes even in times when they are not in need, arranging functions in the society, getting into good names of some and bad names for others. And the other category who stay @ home, not affected with what is happening around them. They will not attend the common society functions and would not like to get "disturbed". The other group which is always looking forward to doing something and ensuring that they know max people around are obviously not spending that much time with their own family than the ones who are all the time only consumed within themselves. But not being social is so darn boring... But then not spending time with your family is not so good as well...

Here many would claim to have a balance in life... It cannot be balanced. There is a new year celebration in the society and you cannot say you are a social animal but afford to stay in house all day long... you would move out and ensure that the function is perfect. but then u ignored ur family and there were people who were merrily sitting at home and spending time with their loved ones. Is it right to sacrifice time for such people. And what about the need of the hour... When such people who dont mingle get into trouble, the other crazy lot still reaches to help them out. Should they? These people dont want to be disturbed, then why now.

I just dont get it what is the right way of living... stay within myself and not be social at all or if i am being social then there would be times when i would not be with my family... is it a right thing to do... are those people who are always within their family better off than us who are more out of house than in house. And if everybody starts staying within themselves, then there would be no society, no fun, no celebrations, no hassi mazaak, no teen pattis, no "just like that" parties.

And whoever says that there needs to be a balance that needs to be maintained, if you have managed to achieve that balance, its fine or else dont give that crap!

Unfortunately i belong to the group who is utterly butterly social and have been able to figure out what is right and wrong in this regard. I need help!

-Sachin